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living the soft life    Let’s be real, this thing we’re calling “soft life” has taken a new turn. And honestly? I love it for us! For a long time, when you heard people talking about “soft life,” it looked like first-class tickets, champagne in Dubai, silky wigs, and soft throws on luxury beds. And don’t get me wrong, we’re still accepting that version. But these days? The real soft life is deeper than money. It’s about one major power move: Saying “No”… and not explaining yourself! Yes, my dear, “No” is a full sentence now. “Saying No Without Guilt” Before, many of us used to explain everything. “I can’t come because I’m tired.” “I don’t want to date you because I’m not ready.” “I’m not attending that party because I have work in the morning.” Now? “ No .” “I’m not available.” “It’s not for me.” That’s it. No long story. No justification. No apology. Just peace. And trust me, that is peak soft life.   The new soft life is quiet, classy, and ...

Let’s talk real life, abeg! There’s a new wave sweeping through, from TikTok to Sunday brunch tables to DMs and WhatsApp groups, and it’s louder than ever: “ If it costs me my peace, I don’t want it.” Choosing peaceful life  Gone are the days when people were dying on the hill of “ride or die,” especially in relationships that were more stress than love. These days, more people, especially women, are waking up and saying, "You know what? I'd rather be alone than be constantly anxious because of one person who doesn’t even know what they want." And honestly? They’re not wrong. People are finally realizing that peace is expensive, and drama is not love! Let’s be honest, some of us were raised to think that love means struggle. That if there’s no shouting, crying, blocking, and unblocking, it’s not “real.”  But 2025 is showing us flames differently. People are now tired of: •           Repeating the same arguments every week. •...